Hi, I’m Jessica alder

I work with individuals, couples, groups, and various relationship constellations to facilitate communication, connection, and relational health. I also assist relationships that require restorative or repair conversations.

My goal is to help people feel seen, heard, accepted, and affirmed, whether they are addressing communication issues, striving to define their relationships more clearly, or navigating challenges related to identity and sexuality. Issues often arise related to attachment wounds, triggers, sexuality and sexual differences, communication, parental relationships, repair, and connection. I also specialize in working with polyamorous, non-monogamous, sex-positive, kink, and open communities. In addition to my professional expertise, my background informs my approach to therapy.

I’m a California native, born and raised in Santa Cruz, but I’ve spent over a decade in Oakland. I’ve had diverse experiences in non-profits, from cancer support for women to restorative justice. My background in interdisciplinary social science has connected me to work that recognizes systems of oppression, power, and privilege. My creative experience in fashion and theater has allowed me self-expression and ingenuity. I love therapy because it emphasizes the exploration of self, family, and society.